MILLIE, NIGERIA

I remember when I entered the phase of self worth. It was very lonely and having been sexually active, I just wanted to be pounded. I would go to work, come back to my apartment feeling so tired, and at that point I just wanted someone to pound me dangerously and just massage my feet. I thought about getting sex toys, I remembered wanting to getting some sets of sex toys and they were just so expensive and I couldn't afford it at that moment. Besides, I knew I could get a man for free, worst case scenario, I'd lure him with food.

I was just so horny one day that I had to hit up that guy that's always hanging around the corner of your DM but wants nothing serious. I didn't have to let him know what I wanted, I just had to tease him a little and he fell into the trap. To be honest, I threw my self worth into the bin. I dated him for one month, got the satisfaction that I needed and made him fall into my trap for a break-up too. At least I'd gotten enough sexual satisfaction that could last me for about two or three months at least. I messaged him the third month again and made him feel like I couldn't do without him. I really just missed his apparatus and wanted to have a taste of it. It cycled like that for a year. I finally dumped him when he proposed to me. I knew I wouldn't and couldn't be with someone like that. He has a good apparatus but was in no way a husband material.

MELOKUHLE, SOUTH AFRICA

I was sexually assaulted when I was around 17-18 and I don't think I've been able to settle within myself my sexual needs. To be honest, every relationship I'd find myself has been to satisfy my sexual urges and when they don't, I simply leave. I do not date primarily for the perks of it as I am very much self sufficient within my ambits. People keep advising me to utilize sex toys but it just isn't enough. I need both machine and human to function well and carry on with my daily activities. Maybe I do need therapy but I do not think it can take away the fact that I am an avid lover of sex and sexual relations. It just makes me feel better. I feel so sorry to the guys that I've dated to be honest because they kept hoping on me being emotional intelligent but I do not have it within me to give to anyone.